Rebuffed: When you try to assist someone or give them something, it can feel like a personal affront when they turn you down.
It often has nothing to do with rudeness. It could be you are offering the wrong kind of assistance altogether, or on the other hand, rejection of a favour can also be reflected the following: Pride, it sometimes in accepti...ng the assistance can feel like admitting inferiority, inadequacy, dependency, or even defeat.
An offer of money, for example, even a loan, can make someone feel like a charity case, and accepting assistance can make someone feel as an inability to being successful complete something unaided.: Unworthiness, as when people grow up thinking that asking for things without explicitly earning then is unacceptably selfish, even feeling that they have no right to your assistance.
When these individuals did allow themselves to take what you are offering, they end up feeling great guilt and or even anxious,. : Indebtedness, is when who seem excessively independent, may have learnt to be that way because their experience validate the notion that taking anything from anyone is way tooo risky. If your offer threatens their sense of freedom, independence, security or autonomy, they'll feel compelled to reject it.: Vulnerability is people with serious trust issues and their fear that accepting a favour will crate an imbalance, weakness in their status in the relationship. For in their past such "taking" was, unexpectedly used against them, why would they risk re-experiencing such betrayal again.. Just thought this was something to share with you. In understanding, what lays beneath the surface of people.
Written by Sonia F Stevens
It often has nothing to do with rudeness. It could be you are offering the wrong kind of assistance altogether, or on the other hand, rejection of a favour can also be reflected the following: Pride, it sometimes in accepti...ng the assistance can feel like admitting inferiority, inadequacy, dependency, or even defeat.
An offer of money, for example, even a loan, can make someone feel like a charity case, and accepting assistance can make someone feel as an inability to being successful complete something unaided.: Unworthiness, as when people grow up thinking that asking for things without explicitly earning then is unacceptably selfish, even feeling that they have no right to your assistance.
When these individuals did allow themselves to take what you are offering, they end up feeling great guilt and or even anxious,. : Indebtedness, is when who seem excessively independent, may have learnt to be that way because their experience validate the notion that taking anything from anyone is way tooo risky. If your offer threatens their sense of freedom, independence, security or autonomy, they'll feel compelled to reject it.: Vulnerability is people with serious trust issues and their fear that accepting a favour will crate an imbalance, weakness in their status in the relationship. For in their past such "taking" was, unexpectedly used against them, why would they risk re-experiencing such betrayal again.. Just thought this was something to share with you. In understanding, what lays beneath the surface of people.
