People In Need

 There are people who are in hospital, on the streets, in wars, in disasters and people are dying, all around the world. N0t only in 3rd world countries but in national, world countries, Australia, New Zealand, America, United Kingdom, Africa, Pacific. This is every day, every minuet and every second. It is also not only the human beings which are leaving t...his earth it is also the animals.

 There is one thing which is common in it all, the ones who have nothing, give everything. Some wealthy people sit at the table and just read about it and then move on to their ten dollar coffee. It is not nice to be called a statistic. Yet,  is what people place us in. We are beings of life. We have feelings, we have minds and if we had a dollar to give we will, as we know what it is to live with nothing and know about death personally.

 Illness touches us, we give: disasters happen we give: sometimes we give more away than we have, to assist those in need, more greater than our own wants and needs. Yet we are called a statistic. We get no thanks but we give anyway. While most of the wealthy read and not support us, that  we give more than we have to others in greater need. Just a thought for all the critics and hooo haa's.

 Even when we have no money, we give out time. Our time is valuable too. This is my request(from Sonia F Stevens) to all... Who will read my note and share it. If you do, you are an extraordinary being in life's world. A that is courageous, for standing.

 

I found that who I am is unimportant. What I do is more important. Inspire creative passions which you were born to achieve and be, is!

Rebuffed

 Rebuffed: When you try to assist someone or give them something, it can feel like a personal affront when they turn you down.

 It often has nothing to do with rudeness. It could be you are offering the wrong kind of assistance altogether, or on the other hand, rejection of a favour can also be reflected the following: Pride, it sometimes in accepti...ng the assistance can feel like admitting inferiority, inadequacy, dependency, or even defeat.

An offer of money, for example, even a loan, can make someone feel like a charity case, and accepting assistance can make someone feel as an inability to being successful complete something unaided.: Unworthiness, as when people grow up thinking that asking for things without explicitly earning then is unacceptably selfish, even feeling that they have no right to your assistance.

When these individuals did allow themselves to take what you are offering, they end up feeling great guilt and or even anxious,. : Indebtedness, is when who seem excessively independent, may have learnt to be that way because their experience validate the notion that taking anything from anyone is way tooo risky. If your offer threatens their sense of freedom, independence, security or autonomy, they'll feel compelled to reject it.: Vulnerability is people with serious trust issues and their fear that accepting a favour will crate an imbalance, weakness in their status in the relationship. For in their past such "taking" was, unexpectedly used against them, why would they risk re-experiencing such betrayal again.. Just thought this was something to share with you. In understanding, what lays beneath the surface of people.

Written by Sonia F Stevens

Prevention Wisdom of Suicide

 Topic Of the Day: Prevention Wisdom of Suicide. This has come up many time. The only real risk in prevention is not doing anything. Although many people do this. When there is a reason to be worried about a person, it is important to share that information.

"What do you think about this situation?".

Mental Health is very important, so approaching someone in the Mental Health, even by animus, to get an idea on steps to follow with your intuition. A big part in suicide prevention is to be a great listener.
Many times, there is impulses to minimise the experience of a person who says, "My partner left me", I feel horrible", I'm flunking". Do not give the pep talk, "Its not all that bad", "that IS NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT". bETTER TO SAY THE FOLLOWING, "You're not the first person to feel this way.

I am here for you. I know where we can get some assistance. Let's Call them. It is important to be prepared and not scared. It is empowering for both to know what to look for. There are many warning signs, text messages, on line videos, promoting their plans through these media sources. Many exhibit paranoia, schizophrenia, delusions even hallucinations.

There is no simple explanation for a very complex behaviour with biological, sociological, psychological ,conscious and unconscious elements. How a tragedy is managed can influence whether someone else might attempt on their life. Post mention,- the actions taken after a tragedy, then comes a form of prevention. Our culture does little to assist the grieving; The message everyone.. I mean everyone is "GET OVER IT" The ones left behind want to know "WHY" and their feeling of "Guilt" as they may have had an argument with that loved one. There is NO "Get over it". That is the wrong thing to even say to another person.

 Many families that do best after a such a tragedy has a healthy communication before that point. Sharing their pain and grief. They talk together.      Those who shut themselves off are the ones who require tolerance love and understanding and someone to never give up on them also. written by Sonia F Stevens

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Traits

Now that I have identified the personality trait that predisposes her/him to that unusual quirk, I ask myself what benefits I personally receive because of those personality traits she/he has.  Here’s a quick list that comes to my mind now as I think about it:

1. I can trust her/him.  I know who she/he is and who she/he is not.  There’s no anxiety about how she/he secretly feels about a relationship with me or anyone else.
She/He doesn’t care that my face is peeling from a sunburn when we go to meet her/his parents.
She/He gives me matter of fact advice with no awkwardness or hesitation when I ask her opinion about things.

I could go on and on, but you get the point.  I mentally frame the annoying behaviour in the context of things I like about her/him, and voila!  Suddenly I find myself easily dismissing the angst that was building inside me just a moment earlier.

And now a warning:

Quirks reveal things about your partner’s personality.  Most of those quirks are harmless, annoying features of their behaviour.  However, there are a few quirks that speak to an underlying incompatibility you should seriously consider.

The nature of quirks is that the person who does them is generally unaware that they are doing them, or unaware that other people find those behaviours odd or annoying.  As a result, they often reveal things about a person’s personality that they might otherwise choose to hide from you during the early stages of a dating relationship.

If she/he chooses to hide the fact that her/his car is always messy, it probably is not a really big deal.  If you are a very conscientious person, maybe it would be a big deal to you, but probably something most people could live with.  However, if she/he is trying to hide a cynical, sarcastic personality trait that reveals itself in the quirk of occasionally berating a waitress with unnecessarily harsh criticisms, consider how that same trait may transfer to the way he treats you, or your children at some point in the future.

He/She may laugh, smile, and go back to his pleasant interaction pattern just thirty seconds after tearing the waitress a part.  If he does this, don’t be fooled.  That kind of little quirk signals the presence of a monster lurking beneath the surface.  That monster could be an anger monster, a manipulator monster, or the monster of untamed narcissism.

I don’t mean to scare you.  I’m only pointing out the obvious, trying to raise your awareness of a simple tool that can improve your relationships.  Here’s the recap.  No one is perfect, so when you find a pretty good man/woman, learn to appreciate the personality traits that cause her/ him to have a few quirks.  Quirks are also unconscious signals of personality traits (much of the time).  As such, they are useful tools for recognizing personality traits the person may suppress when in your presence.

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