Real Understanding

I gave and still give.... As I understand what it is to have nothing. I request people to consider many aspects of life's hardships and disasters. I find that the ones who know what it is like to have nothing, gives the most. Do the most. Respects the most.

 

When you see the statistic and percentages of giving.

Wealthy, give only 1% or 10% for tax reasons.

Those who give most give 30 -60 % who have been poor and know what it is like to have nothing.

% and statistics , which I have been informed ... don't lie.

 

Story.. real

No a small story of my past.
 

The past years I have assisted in establishing over 450+ projects, for people from nothing.
I know I said all those things which I personally want in my life..it is something i need to keep my sanity at times to want those things.
I am a female as you know, I have spinal situation,
I created my life over again by re education of myself in... Screen and... Media, Production, Music Business, Business , Pr and recording.

Te past ten thirteen year, I built up a network thought my own research of over90,000 Entertainment families. Not one cent came from anywhere.. As no one believed in me.

I have done 19 music videos for others , written two books, write blogs and empower many people. I have not been in the 'Limelight'. I taken photographs on many things since I was given my first box brownie..at the age a four.

I was ready and writing at the age of 2.

I sent over 100,000 books to the pacific for the communities over there, and gave that area of network to Rotary clubs in Sydney when they took it over in 2007. I established all that from not having a penny to my name.

Everything I have done was from nothing, no money, no one behind me.

I wanted someone to love me for me.. so I went on line where I met you.

Now I am clarifying that I know what it is like to be well off and also when you have nothing.

I want to play ,, enjoy life with you.

I care for people and established many things in those past years since my divorce in 2003.

I grew up all over the place and met many people, well known and not so.. I was raped in 2004 and had major surgery then and in 2011.

I assisted many people, yet when I need to be looked after..no one came..only three people out of the thousands ...

I am not a celebrity, or a well known star,, of business person.

When I worked in Telecom I was in fiancé and accounting  and handled million to the new infrastructure of cabling in and around Sydney and optical cable from NSW to Victoria.

The store guys nicked named me boots, as I was the one woman who went out in the field into their domain and seen how they worked, I even used a forklift. . hence the nick name 'boots'.

I have been with many artists, picking them up and empowering them to create their passions and dreams, admitting I have lost a few, through suicides.

I tread everyone with respect no matter who they are.

I give food to the street people when they are begging..as that will fill their stomachs up or a warm blanket ,,,

When I am able to do so.

I want a life where love is there for me. So I can curl up and just be.

I wish you could understand all this. We can achieve many dreams in our lives. We can achieve a lot out of our turmoil. What stops us..really,, is our own barriers which we place up. And we all started building those barriers since childhood...  As we get older, we forgot that they are there.. only when we look within ourselves occasionally we come across them... No one placed them there for us.. We Placed them there long long ago.

 

 

I found that who I am is unimportant. What I do is more important. Inspire creative passions which you were born to achieve and be, is!

Traits

Now that I have identified the personality trait that predisposes her/him to that unusual quirk, I ask myself what benefits I personally receive because of those personality traits she/he has.  Here’s a quick list that comes to my mind now as I think about it:

1. I can trust her/him.  I know who she/he is and who she/he is not.  There’s no anxiety about how she/he secretly feels about a relationship with me or anyone else.
She/He doesn’t care that my face is peeling from a sunburn when we go to meet her/his parents.
She/He gives me matter of fact advice with no awkwardness or hesitation when I ask her opinion about things.

I could go on and on, but you get the point.  I mentally frame the annoying behaviour in the context of things I like about her/him, and voila!  Suddenly I find myself easily dismissing the angst that was building inside me just a moment earlier.

And now a warning:

Quirks reveal things about your partner’s personality.  Most of those quirks are harmless, annoying features of their behaviour.  However, there are a few quirks that speak to an underlying incompatibility you should seriously consider.

The nature of quirks is that the person who does them is generally unaware that they are doing them, or unaware that other people find those behaviours odd or annoying.  As a result, they often reveal things about a person’s personality that they might otherwise choose to hide from you during the early stages of a dating relationship.

If she/he chooses to hide the fact that her/his car is always messy, it probably is not a really big deal.  If you are a very conscientious person, maybe it would be a big deal to you, but probably something most people could live with.  However, if she/he is trying to hide a cynical, sarcastic personality trait that reveals itself in the quirk of occasionally berating a waitress with unnecessarily harsh criticisms, consider how that same trait may transfer to the way he treats you, or your children at some point in the future.

He/She may laugh, smile, and go back to his pleasant interaction pattern just thirty seconds after tearing the waitress a part.  If he does this, don’t be fooled.  That kind of little quirk signals the presence of a monster lurking beneath the surface.  That monster could be an anger monster, a manipulator monster, or the monster of untamed narcissism.

I don’t mean to scare you.  I’m only pointing out the obvious, trying to raise your awareness of a simple tool that can improve your relationships.  Here’s the recap.  No one is perfect, so when you find a pretty good man/woman, learn to appreciate the personality traits that cause her/ him to have a few quirks.  Quirks are also unconscious signals of personality traits (much of the time).  As such, they are useful tools for recognizing personality traits the person may suppress when in your presence.

now another perspective

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Bring out the Best

Bringing the Best Out

The three centres of Intelligence

1. The Heard Centre

Gather information: generate Ideas: Mental processing: Rational analysis: Planning

Productive Uses: Objective analysis; astute insight; Productive planning

Unproductive Uses: Overanalyses; Projection, this is imagination that someone else is thinking, feeling, or doing something that is actually true of oneself.; Over planning.

Three of the nine Enneagram styles are called Head Centre styles – fives: Withdraw from fear of intrusion and loss of energy  by trying to depend solely on their own resources; gather abundant information to analyse for the purpose of understanding how everything works: sixes; Develop continuous anticipatory scenarios in order to overcome potential problems and reduce their fear that something could go wrong and /or headlong into fearful situations to prove their own courage:, and sevens; Move away from fear, sadness and discomfort by imagining positive futures possibilities and by generating exciting ideas rather that feeling fearful or uncomfortable.
  
       They engage in extensive mental analysis : Value facts, information, and ideas; and share a
       common concern about safety and trust response to the emotion associated with the Head
       Centre – fear, the imagining that something negative could happen.

1. Heart Centre Functions

Experience feeling: Emotional relating: Sensitivity to Others.

Productive Uses: Empathy; Authentic relating; Compassion
Unproductive Uses: Emotional manipulation, is using emotional information to get an individual to do something he or she might not otherwise agree to do: Playing roles: Oversensitivity.

Three of the nine Enneagram styles are called Heart Centre Styles – Twos; Create an image of being likable, generous, and concerned for other people then look to others for affirmation on their self-worth: Threes; Create an image of self-confidence and success, then seek the respect and admiration of others for what they accomplish:, and Fours; Crate an image of being unique, special and different, then use their emotional sensitivity to avoid feeling not good enough. They want others to respond to them in a specific ways and create and image to get the desired response. With a common focus on creating an image and being concerned about others perceive them, the Heart Centre Styles end up feeling not value who they really are, and this gives raise to the common associated with the Heart Centre – sorrow.

1. The Body Centre Functions

Individuals utilize the Body Centre in the following ways:
Movement: Physical sensations: Action or Interaction: Control
Productive Uses: Effective action; Steadfast; Gut knowing
Unproductive Uses: Excessive action; Passivity; Reactivity, is responding both immediately and hastily, without making a conscious choice to behave in this matter.

The Three Enneagram Body Centre Styles – Eights: Readily express anger starting from the gut, believing that anger is simply energy that needs release, exert control by taking charge:, Nines: Avoid both their own and other’s anger, seeking instead to mediate differences and create harmony. Do not let others control them;, and Ones: Manifest anger as irrational and resentment, believe anger is a negative emotion that must be kept under control by being self-controlled and highly structured. – Primarily trust their guts and instincts and have different ways for dealing with control that arises from the emotion associated with the Body Centre – anger.

Trust
Trust  is crucial to the success of the development experience, and trust-related issues need to be discussed at the earliest stages with individuals of all Enneagram styles.

• Maintain confidentiality agreements
• Possess impeccable integrity and not have side conversations with others.
• Be reliable in the relationship – be available for the other when needed.
• Honesty and Clarity
• Value and Prestige
• Core beliefs
• Emotional patterns
• Workplace behaviours
• Realization- the knowing that you aren’t always right
• Motivation – the impetus and inspiration for you
• Awareness – the objective understanding of your own reactions related  to you
• Choice – the decision to take responsibility for yourself and to commit to your own growth and development.
• Plan – the creation of a development plan
• Action – the ability to take constructive, sustained action ( complete this step one month after the plan has been implemented) and to adjust the plan as needed and required along the way.
• Being excellent for other as well as yourself
• Knowing how to accelerate growth
• Being able to create a productive relationship
• Knowing how to implement an effective development process
• Being able to align the coaching efforts with requirements
• Being able to achieve lasting results

Respond to the urgent issues

1. Listen attentively
2. Address immediate problems when possible, give advice carefully
3. Be calm, compassionate and clear

Deal with the Deeper Dynamics

1. Identify root causes
2. Deal with the deeper concerns
3. Provide relief and hope

Create a sustainable action plan

1. Crate a focused, concrete plan of action.
2. Design a support system
3. Refer to additional resources as required and needed.

Learning Styles
Auditory
Visual
Kinaesthetic

Data-feedback
Preliminary Discussion Items

1. Establish rapport
2. Review the initial goals and the data collection methodology
3. Reiterate the confidentiality Agreements
4. Ask about any concerns

Primary Discussions Items

1. Present data
2. Discuss the data and prioritize the most important issues
3. Discuss next steps