My Commitment

Within my heart there is a struggle

within my life the intimacy revelling knowledge of you

Within my heart lies bare and cherished of primal attachment.



Deepest truths when we are together

Widening our lives with each other in twining

Sustaining us knowledge of trust, love and passion



This is the choice of maturity

Being supported every way while we live our lives together

Living our close lives intertwined each day



Within my heart there is a struggle

Within my life the intimacy revelling knowledge of you

Within my heart lies bare and cherished of primal attachment.



With our all and imperfections

Giving all to each other

The love which joins us amidst the moods of other's rejections.



The deepest struggles of our hearts

Of life and imperfections being heard and known

Calm amidst the life of moods and within love us



With maturity and our commitment

Responsibility, integrity of this commitment

Learning and expanding as we love and understand

Overwhelm all that there is and will be.


To experience and left unexperienced the sharing

There is a place where I for you and you for I

Have chosen together to all that we have


All the yearnings of needs wants and desires

The hearts which beat as one

Knowing of peace excitement as we get even closer

One lover for each other

So it is now and forever

You will be my lover


Written by Sonia F Stevens © copyright2013

 

Think

I never got to say my good byes to my parents.. that was hard .. remember each day you are living, live in that moment, take it to the hilt.. there is no why's, who, should's, could's as they are past and also negative.. if you grab hold of life, live in the moment.. but also be sure it is the way you want to live it, not the other's wants and need...s,, we can fall into bed with anyone, can you say that it is the one you want in your life forever or a moment.. that is for you to decide.. what ever your choices are, remember, you are loved, cherished and believed in, also someone has great faith in you, knows what it is like and is there for you always.

 think of your life in the now.. as if you have an accident later in the day.. are you sure, you want that person to know much which is from your heart.

 

Life

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"Into the eyes of life, love can be given. Into the darkness our souls can be taken. These are the true trials of living a life of creation" By Sonia F Stevens.
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Power Of NO

No… The power of NO

The integrity of this word “NO” a shield against exploitation and an instrument when wielded wisely.

There is a lot of talk about “yes” as it supports risk taking, courage, open hearted approach to life which grace cannot be minimised.

“No” Slams the door shut between one’s self and the influence of others. It has a hidden power .    It is easy misunderstood, difficult to engage. And others.

Negativity is ongoing attitude. NO.. is a moment of clear choice. It announces, indirectly, something affirmative about you.

NO.. has two faces, one we turn towards ourselves and one that creates boundaries between ourselves.

No.. the one we address to struggle to strengthen our internal.

No.. the one we address to our own self-destructive impulses, struggle which we are most familiar.

That NO controls our vent of rage on the road and our urge for that addiction. No.. self-discipline

No..  The one we learnt as babies to adulthood.

No… Line in the sand or stone.
If you feel you cannot say no, at least to something's, some of the time. Then you are being controlled.. interesting is it now how we as human beings act.

There is nothing which can untie the moment when nature has a say

When two points are destined to touch. The universe will always find a way to make the connections even when all hope is lost as certain ties are cannot be broken. They define who we are and who we can become and who we are. Across space and time along paths we cannot predict nature always finds a way.Having value goes way past and beyond profit. O...ur collective consciousness synchronises.  A collective request, set up in unison and a shared hope. In times of tragedy and joy it is the sharing of these great events that define our lives as one. There are no coincidences. Most people do not see the tree without the forest around them. They lose the gift of that one tree among the forest of trees, but if you notice the one tree, you can see all the trees are not the same nor is one blade of grass is exact to another blade of grass. ~ Sonia F Stevens

Second Date????? MMMMM

Eavesdrop on a couple of boomers talking about dating and you’ll likely hear a laundry list of what’s wrong with the person they’re dating.

While there’s no preventative magic, those lists can be shrunk and sometimes eliminated. A second date for a boomer should depend on whether their date on the first exhibited a fair amount of relationship potential, and a coffee date can be very telling if you know what questions to ask.

The stakes are too high to settle but the clock is running. Dating smart means narrowing the field rapidly to save time and energy. There’ll always be issues in a relationship that require compromise, but since the answers to these questions indicate basic, interpersonal skills no latitude is necessary.
A long dating dry spell can contribute to fantasies and projections about a first date based on little useful information, a lot of hope, and a powerful drive to be in a relationship again.

There are five questions, and the best three or four out of five won’t work since all five are reasonable and fair to any boomer who’s done some amount of inner work. Dating is the time to be your own best friend, and staying focused is acting in that manner.

1. What’s Under The Hood?
Has your date done any type of personal growth work, individual or group therapy, been in a men’s or women’s group, attended any workshops or lectures about personal growth or relationships, read any books or magazine articles about relationships, or done anything at all that indicates the ability to co-create a successful relationship? This is critical since every relationship faces challenges.

Knowing how to work through them is learned behaviour. These skills aren’t second nature to many people, but a boomer who’s done some amount of inner work knows how to resolve issues.

2. Friends Matter
Does your date have any same sex friends? It’s important because it points to trust. A boomer without close friends may have unresolved trust issues that will become problematic later. My mentor said it well, “Where there’s no trust, there’s no love.”
In addition, dating a loner means you’ll automatically become his or her entire universe, an onerous burden. Having close friends also suggests the presence of relationship skills since friendships sometimes have issues that need to be resolved. The best relationships are also best friendships, but that depends on a willingness to trust and be trustworthy.

3. Boring?
Did your date show interest in you and your life? Did he or she ask you a fair number of questions? A frequent complaint is a first date that didn’t stop talking about his or her life and failed to ask their date anything about theirs. This is a red flag because it suggests someone self-involved, and self-involved people don’t make good partners for obvious reasons. There are no excuses for rudeness, and a second date will only confirm your date wasn’t a good prospect.

4. Generosity? Maybe Not
Does your date have some means of support? Unless you’re okay with financing the relationship, this matters. And, the inequality of badly lopsided financial relationships rarely works. I’ve seen many boomer relationships based on one person supporting the other and few succeeded, in part because there’s nearly always the expectation of a quid pro quo, whether verbalized or not. While this doesn’t apply to married couples, in general there’s no free lunch.

5. Hot Or Not
Physical chemistry is vital, but I’m not suggesting sex too early in a relationship. It’s a good idea not to become sexual until both partners feel confident the relationship is viable. It helps avoid the hurt feelings that accompany rocket ride, failed relationships. Since the great majority of couples feel that a satisfying relationship embodies strong physical chemistry, it’s worth asking your date how important they feel it is. Don’t sell passion and heat short. Relationships are difficult enough, and one lacking in juiciness is off to a shaky start.

If you’re sceptical or shy about asking these questions, think how you’ll feel after wasting months with someone inappropriate when you might have discovered their issues simply by being up front and honest. My coffee dates were always grateful and I was glad that most turned my questions around on me. The nature of our answers told us far more about each other than we could have learned chatting about lesser things. Whether or not to have a second date will be much more clear, and the only people who might find these questions objectionable likely can’t answer them well.

Of course there are other factors involved in determining a first date’s second date potential, and these questions aren’t going to work perfectly every time. But everyone wants to meet someone who can hold up his or her emotional end of a relationship. These questions point in that direction.

 

Following your heart and your passions

When you following your passions and heart, it is important not to be the one of those people who allows them to give up as soon as they face difficulties or obstacles. If you find yourself in a situation where it does not seem you can hang on for another moment, do not give up, because that is always the time when the tide turns.
"It is always the darkest before the dawn"
It is true and it is something I remind myself of when things get rough.
Hold on tenaciously to your passions and dreams now, persevere, believe and the Universe will get behind you and create miracles for you.
Feel this in your heart. Most important always remain open to receiving your miracles. Expect a miracle Everyday.

Have the will and courage to endure, you will be in the exact right spot to grow and succeed.
You can live your life dreaming, or you can live your dreams.
Above all revel in your pursuit of your dreams, savour your successes and forget your failures, as failures are not that, they were lessons and ideas, which have grown further than what you expected.
I have faith in myself and my abilities to overcome whatever is put in my path, because I know the Universe and the almighty is on my side.
Positively charged people react positively to life because they know winning means getting the upper hand in life. You cannot win if you’re feeling defensive all the time. You must take direct action so life reacts to you, instead of you reacting to what life throws to you. You must act and feel positively as well.
This does not mean you ignore problems, but rather you refuse to let problems or obstacles stand in your way.
It means your ready, willing and able to do what ever it takes to make your dreams become reality. It also means you do not let your emotions, like your fears and doubts control your thoughts. Most importantly it means you disregard what you cannot control and only focus on the things you can change.
Recognising the differences between being negatively and positively charged.

Situation; You are asked to do a new task
Negative reaction; I do not know how
Positive Reaction; I’ll break it into small steps so it will be a piece of cake.

Situation; you are facing an obstacle that seems insurmountable.
Negative reaction; I will never be able to do anything about this.
Positive reaction; What is the problem, what are the solutions, what do I do first?

Now is the time to really start taking life on. You are surrounded by both opportunity and positive energy now. To benefit from this incredible potential, you take responsibility for your life and consciously use your good fortune to bring about real change you desire.

Only you have the power to fulfil your passions and dreams. You just have to decide what you really want, then develop a plan to obtain them. Act upon your dreams, instead of waiting around for them to come true.
The only hard part is perhaps taking the first step. And that is hard because you probably have not ever done anything like it before.
Remember, once that step is taken, your dreams will start looking for ways to fulfil themselves.
Develop an attitude that says: ‘I have nothing to lose and everything to gain’ because you do. Never be in a rush to tell yourself “NO” before anyone else does. DO NOT put up barriers or obstacles where non exist. Most people stop themselves from realising their dreams way before anyone else does. And if other’s do say something. Forgive them and take back your power.
Do Not be concerned about doing everything right because all successful people know “Anything worth doing is worth doing badly”
It is better to something, anything, than to do nothing. You can always make things better…. As an artist, businessman, athlete, singer or cook knows.

Almost nothing comes out perfect the first time, but with practice almost everything gets better and clearer. So do not worry.
No matter what you do, if you keep doing it, it will get easier and easier and you will get closer and closer to fulfilling your passions and dreams.

I found that who I am is unimportant. What I do is more important. Inspire creative passions which you were born to achieve and be, is!