Words or Wisdom

Words or Wisdom

By Sonia Frances Stevens

With everything that we all endure

It is our life that we must secure.

Each person we do meet.

There is something we learn when we greet.

With turmoil all around of life

With everyone, life is ours to keep

Through strife when things are at ends

It is up to you and me to make amends.

You and I are the same

You and I are here to learn

You and I are here to share.

We share because deep down inside,

We all do really care.

In bad times,

We face our life to learn.

Being together,

Is what we all learn.

In good times,

We celebrate,

Because we learnt to overcome the hard times.

Each phase of life

You and I must share.

Because deep inside we really do care.

Being alone,

We all go into despair.

Being tighter, we learn, love, share, care,

And we work for each other.

So my words to you are:

Share your life, in all types of weather.

Because no man is an island.

To live a fruitful life you and I must share.

You and I open our heart to care.

We love, give what others need,

Listen,

And validate each others point of view.

We hold their truth in our hearts

And do not distort it,

Or judge it.

Only then do we experience inner peace,

Self- love and joy.

Copyright©2005-2007by Sonia F Stevens

With Words

With Words

By Sonia F Stevens

With words of pain, hurt and strife

We cut our way through a painful life.

If words of love, passion and heart.

We all live life with peaceful grace.

And then we become a true part of the human race.

We all keep up to our own pace.

To have passion

You have progression

To have love

You open your own heart

Thing like this,

Is how we all start our lives

This is how we reach our thoughts

This is were our words come from

Meaning what we all have the share.

A word tells the world how we each care.

Also tells others’ how we share.

How we all really care.

Copyrighted©2006-2007 by Sonia F Stevens

7 Steps Try to combat lonelness

1. Remember that although the distinction can be difficult to draw, loneliness and solitude are different. White observes, “It’s entirely reasonable to feel lonely yet still feel as though you need some time to yourself.” Loneliness feels draining, distracting, and upsetting; desired solitude feels peaceful, creative, restorative.

2. Nurturing others — raising children, teaching, caring for animals — helps to alleviate loneliness.

3. Keep in mind that to avoid loneliness, many people need both a social circle and an intimate attachment. Having just one of two may still leave you feeling lonely.

4. Work hard to get your sleep. One of the most common indicators of loneliness is broken sleep — taking a long time to fall asleep, waking frequently, and feeling sleepy during the day. Sleep deprivation, under any circumstances, brings down people’s moods, makes them more likely to get sick, and dampens their energy, so it’s important to tackle this issue. (Here are some tips on getting good sleep.)

5. Try to figure out what’s missing from your life. White observes that making lots of plans with friends didn’t alleviate her loneliness. “What I wanted,” she writes, “was the quiet presence of another person.” She longed to have someone else just hanging around the house with her. The more clearly you see what’s lacking, the more clearly you’ll see possible solutions.

6. Take steps to connect with other people (to state the obvious). Show up, make plans, sign up for a class, take a minute to chat.

7. Stay open. Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change. The pain of loneliness can prod you to connect with other people. Unfortunately–and this may seem counter-intuitive--loneliness itself can make people feel more negative, critical, and judgmental. If you recognize that your loneliness may be affecting you in that way, you can take steps to counter it.

Real Understanding

I gave and still give.... As I understand what it is to have nothing. I request people to consider many aspects of life's hardships and disasters. I find that the ones who know what it is like to have nothing, gives the most. Do the most. Respects the most.

 

When you see the statistic and percentages of giving.

Wealthy, give only 1% or 10% for tax reasons.

Those who give most give 30 -60 % who have been poor and know what it is like to have nothing.

% and statistics , which I have been informed ... don't lie.

 

Words Or Wisdom

WE Don't Lose Friends! WE Just Learn WHO Our Friends REALY ARE.

Intelligence is like an underwear. It is important that you have it, but not necessary that you show it off.

Fake people never surprise me these days. Loyal and forgiving people do.

Words cannot hurt you, unless the words said, came by the person you care about the most.

The prettiest smiles hide the deepest secrets. The prettiest eyes have cried the most tears. And the kindest hearts have felt the most pain.

Sometimes you miss the memories, not the person.

Don't waste your time on revenge. Those who hurt you will eventually face their own karma.
Haters will broadcast your failure, but whisper your success..

Apologizing does not always mean you are wrong. It just means that you value your relationships more than your ego.

Respect is earned, Honesty is appreciated, Love is gained and Loyalty is returned.

Women fall in love by what they hear. Men fall in love by what they see. That's why most women wear makeup and most men lie.

The less you care, the happier you will be.

I rather have an honest enemy than a fake friend.

Sometimes you have to shut up, swallow your pride and accept that you’re wrong. It’s not giving up, it’s called growing up.

A pretty face is nothing if you have an ugly heart.

Twitter has a bird as its logo, that's why when you join you're an egg. And your home button is a birdhouse. Why am I just getting this?

Why do we close our eyes when we pray, cry, kiss or dream? Because the most beautiful things in life are not seen but felt by the heart.

Someone who really loves you sees what a mess you can be, how moody you can get, how hard u are to handle, but still wants u in their life.

If you're absent during my struggle, don't expect to be present during my success.

Don't cry because they left. Just smile because they gave you a chance to find someone better.

I don't regret the things I've done, I regret the things I didn't do when I had the chance.

Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour.

You never just stop loving someone, either you always will, or you never did in the first place.

The worst feeling is when someone makes you feel special, then suddenly leaves you hanging, and you have to act like you don't care at all.

When a someone tells you about their problems, it does not mean they complains. It means they trusts you.

God has perfect timing; never early, never late. It takes a little patience and faith, but it's worth the wait.

The worst feeling is pretending you don't care about someone, when really they are all you think about.

God doesn't make mistakes. Trust it, when someone ends up in your past, they're there for a reason.

If you don't fight for what you want, don't cry for what you lost.

Breathe. It's just a bad day, not a bad life.

You get in the biggest fights with the people you care about the most, because they are the relationships you're willing to fight for.

No matter how good or bad you think life is, wake up each day and be thankful for life. Someone somewhere else is fighting to survive.

Honestly, I don't have time to hate people who hate me cause I'm too busy loving people who love me.

Don’t judge my choices if you don’t understand my reasons.

The words I love you: I am sorry: Please forgive me: and Thank you , need to be said.. as it is those words which make life a live and have meaning.. when a per...son say's them, it is up to you bo believe them or not.. and the person saying them has to really mean them for them to be taken seriously.. Do not kid around when they are said.. Same is for asking someone to marry them... and these words are not a joke..

Sometimes you have to care less, in order to see if they'll care more....

I found that who I am is unimportant. What I do is more important. Inspire creative passions which you were born to achieve and be, is!

I don't forgive people because I'm weak. I forgive them because I am strong enough to know people make mistakes.

Hate the fact that you ignore me for so long, then you start talking to me like nothing happened.

I love my mom no matter what we go through, no matter how much we argue, because I know, at the end, she'll always be there.

Looking at a photograph and wishing you could re-live that moment over and over again.

No one has the right to judge you. They might have heard your stories, but they didn't feel what you were going through.

Distance means nothing when someone means everything.

Strangers can become best friends just as easy as best friends can become strangers.

I don't hate you, I never will. I just act like I do, because it's easier than admitting that I miss you.

If you don't do stupid things while you're young, you'll have nothing to smile about when you're old.

If you truly love someone, all you want is for them to be happy, even if deep down, all you want is for you to be their happiness.

Appreciate those who love you. Help those who need you. Forgive those who hurt you. Forget those who leave you.

Sometimes it’s a good thing to have fake people in this world. It helps you find out who your real friends are.

Over-thinking ruins you. Ruins the situation, twists things around, makes you worry and just makes everything much worse than it actually is.

The best revenge is happiness, because nothing drives people more crazy then seeing someone actually having a good life.

Just because you can't see the air, doesn't mean you stop breathing. Just because you can't see God doesn't mean you stop believing.

I want to write "I miss you" on a rock and throw it at your face so you know how much it hurts to miss you.

Things will get worse before they get better. But when they do, remember who put you down and who helped you up.

No matter how busy a person is, if they really care, they'll always find time for you.

One of the hardest parts of life is deciding whether to walk away or try harder.

Never give up on something you really want. It's difficult to wait, but more difficult to regret.

We don't lose friends. We just learn who our real ones are.

Its funny how you can do nice things for people all the time and they never notice. But once you make one mistake, its never forgotten.

Good things come to those who wait... Better things come to those who don't give up... and the best things come to those who believe.

Just because we don't talk doesn't mean I don't think about you. I'm just trying to distance myself because I know I can't have you.

Everyone comes into your life for a reason, some for good or bad, they may shape us, break us, but in the end they make us who we are.

Don't trust too much. Don't love too much. Don't hope too much. Because that too much can hurt you so much.

Where ever you are, be there totaly. If your are here and now makes you unhappy, you hae three options: a) Remove yourself,b) Change it, c) Accept it totally.

Life's not about people who act true to your face. It's about people who remain true behind your back.

I'd much rather have an enemy who can admit that they hate me, than to have a "friend" whose mission is to put me down secretly.

Don't promise when you're happy, Don't reply when you're angry, and don't decide when you're sad.

Grades don't measure intelligence and age doesn't define maturity.

Being in a relationship is not about kissing, dates or showing off. It's about being with the person who makes you happy.

Sometimes you have to let things go, so there's room for better things to come into your life.

Stop caring what people think. Stop taking caution in your actions, listen to what you want, do what you want, this is your life. Live it.

No one is perfect.. there are always mistakes.. it is your integrity which keeps you who you are abel you can forgive and move on from mistakes or you can live in mistakes and get swallowed up and forgotten in mistakes..

Do what you have to do today so you can do what you want tomorrow. What you to really want is a life us that takes pride that you have lived, and that takes work. The only way that we can truly live, is to grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change.  The only way to change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way we can become exposed is if we are willing to place ourselves out there and work through life’s difficulties.

A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved, except in memory.

Do what you have to do today so you can do what you want tomorrow. What you to really want is a life us that takes pride that you have lived, and that takes work. The only way that we can truly live, is to grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change.  The only way to change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way we can become exposed is if we are willing to place ourselves out there and work through life’s difficulties.

 

My PArt History in Life.

Human beings are deeply trusting. While many of us soon learn to develop suspicions and misgivings, our natural immediate inclination is to believe what we are informed, regardless of who is telling us. This is what makes us venerable. It is also what makes us grateful, wonderful beings, inspirational, and extraordinary. We live in a compiles, clever society.

A few of the older ones stop trusting and believing and this is where we stop experiencing life. We may have many good reasons, to question the information that we are given, there is still place for benefit of doubt on that level. Do not give up trusting as the person who you decide not to trust maybe the innocent one who ends up the loyalist friend you will ever have and to have them in your life is an experience you don't want to miss.

We could choose to create a long list of all the things we are unable to do..
we could begin what ever our current circumstances prohibit us from doing...add to the activities we have never been able to participate in and then .......you know what?

I am tired of this exercise already, arn't you?What is the point? It is not just futile, it is counterproductive.

You/ We should and can be looking instead at what is possible...

This list is so much more, longer and it is worth giving our time to as it is really serious consideration and it gives you a happier outlook on what you have achieved and what is achievable with us...

To think too much can cloud the real organ and that is the heart.. that pumps life into us beings and show you more than the mind can ever know..

Interesting thoughts...
Then again, you are the only person who can choose their way of life.. just make sure you have all the points and all the views before you judge another as you could be judging yourself.. Can you judge another when you cannot judge yourself, Really?

Do you also know that when you give your time to others without payment ..in the eye of the law you are worthless as you are not earning an income...Fascinating that this has happened..
Specially when everyone is calling for volunteers...

What else is there to be written? Love, Trust, caring, compassion, belief, your responsibility, your word and your integrity is always being judged within the first 2 seconds of introduction.. Why do people judge covers and never bother to know what is inside.. A business man could be a child rapist and the old turn person, could be the one to trust first...the well dressed man looks trusting and well off... then maybe not...see what is there and know what is on the inside..

I trusted and I still do and I know I am vulnerable, but I believe in people, their talents, their being, their love and them selves, not what the outside looks like.. There are always rough diamonds and there are always false diamonds who look like diamonds but are not..then again you have to choose who you like or not.. just thoughts of someone who knows nothing about your lives but everything about mine..

My father tried to kill me at the age of 8 years old.. then a man stepped in front of me to protect me and he ended up being stabbed on my behalf.. he died.. truth is there.(He did try to do that on many occasions, try to end my life as well as my mothers, he was not himself when that happened, even scary as it was, I Loved him).
My father was in WWII and saw many things and sometimes when he was angry or drunk... he would have flash backs...I knew this..

I cannot take back what he did but I understand where he came from... he knew many Hollywood stars and they were great friends with bonds which are never broken... And with all the knowing and the pain which came with my father, I LOVED him for who he was.. Even in danger to myself, I cared and loved him... many thought I should not.. but you see it is when people are in need, it is when you should be there for them, no matter what because I was his daughter and I Really Loved him and could not assist him through his pain, but be there when he wanted me.. Same thing with my mother.. I LOVED THEM AND I Took the time to understand them even when I was a child..

Sharing this with you seems pointless unless I believed it would assist you to expand and understand..
the only time I had great hatred in my heart was when My Niece was murdered...And the man who did this hung himself in Campbelltown Court house Jail.. in 1988 October..
I have seen now that he was ill, on drugs and two personalities.. bipolar and his mother was found as the cause of it through the glebe court.. There is so much more and in-depth to all these things. Yes. Real life is interesting.. and surreal. There is calm and storms and non are controlled. You have the choices to make. Make them and then if that does not work for you choose another choice.

You can move on from great pain and you can trust, life is fascinating, interesting and confronting.. And there is great love there, if you allow trust in your life with communication..

I could and maybe seem to play a victim, although you judge me already. I am really a survivor.

I found that who I am is unimportant. What I do is more important. Inspire creative passions which you were born to achieve and be, is!

Darkness and shaddows

Darkness in my friend, the light shows me what ways I am to travel...choices
i make but the warmth of my love keeps me warm at night..
Believing in you...believing in me...

The sense of propriety. Is it merely an illusion?

Want to know something? Mmm

Want to know something amazing.

Life is empty and meaningless...

How is that you ask?

We each place our own meaning on our lives...mmm..

Interesting? Yes/no?

Since birth, all the negative words stuck to us...like glue...family, friends strangers...all of the so called jokes which others found funny at your expanse...stuck to us.

Our bodies absorbed it all...

Yet those positive words were overwhelmed but those negative opinions, jokes...arguments...

Can you give yourself positive feedback or it is negative?

You neither exists beyond your own imagination...how’s that?

When you were a child you were praised for smiling or Burping and scolded for crying, throwing food on the floor, tormenting the Animals, not doing your homework, etc.

Every negative word.. was introduced to us by...get this.. you'll love it...your family.. your friends.. who by the way. . made jokes .. about all of it..mmmm

Communication is the greatest key to a loving and understanding relationship...building that love and trust.. taking it for granted, is taking life for granted. opening your mouth and saying what you really feel, admiringly might hurt the first time, but it tell people where you truly stand. Lies give false hope and you caused it. No one is at blame except you. Taking responsibility for your own actions is the greatest thing and you established your own integrity. You word then has meaning and a bond to it.

Laugh...do you realise that each name calling, blame etc....as you were growing up...Stuck to you like glue?
This comes up in you and me every emotional moment.
yes.. every emotional moment..

You placed important meaning to them...you interpreted them...into your mind...one way or another...they stuck to you...and many never realise it...

mmmmm..Interesting...

Well what else were you to do? After hearing all that while You were growing up...you lost yourselves, including me, you were given Feedback by others on your movements, knowledge and emotions, we all grew up

With those in placed by others.

Then there is a continuous drone of gurus telling us about  we should feel about ourselves. We are too enlightened and yet we are Clueless...including them.

Mother Nature controls us. We are one in 5000 mammals within

A larger group of 1.7 million known species. We might be more advanced than

That of a monkey, that doesn’t always translate into brilliance.

Relatively speaking, of course we make choices every day.

You choose your hairstyle, your brand of toothpaste and toppings. In
absolute sense,

However, this is all bitter sweet, your genes and environmental conditioning

That are doing the choosing for you... there is not a you but from the
natural

Building blocks

We are informed of this and that, how to preserve and talk, what is right
and what is wrong in our lives. So, much so that people get depressed and committee
suicide. That is a long term solution to a short term problem.

Choose Love in the real meaning. Not judging others, allowing others to be
who they are meant to be. Creators of their own lives. Allow them Joy and
laughter, don’t torment them with wisecracks and smart remarks as the only
person who is really affected in that is you. People won’t want to be around
you for that long. Short term friendships, with lasting effects.

The source of so much of your unhappiness is entrenched

Belief that we are choosing our behaviour, often choosing poorly. This
belief

Is the stone in your shoe as you hobble through life?

Drop the distressing theory of human behaviour and replace

It with a new one:" Everyone’s doing the best they can with what life
has given them."

Straight forward, compact enough to slap on the refrigerator

As a reminder, and at least as plausible as any theory you have dreamed up
so Far. With that irritation stone removed from that shoe, you discover
lightness in your step. You’ll stroll through life feeling grateful for what you have been given and sympathy towards those who were given less. Freed from bondage of judgement, you will live in perpetual state of forgiveness.

Adopt the idea that we are all doing the best we can with what we have in our lives now...and each day.

Give respect and acknowledgements for the great things in life. Let the other stuff on the side and grow your life to what it is.. Create your lives, embrace others and empower everyone in trust, friendships and love. Forget the
other stuff.. don't get crazy.. respect and honour your word, deeds and truth.

Enjoy life and not place others under, praise their skills and their
abilities, then your a leader of millions ==